Being unique is better than being perfect.

I read that quote recently and it has really stuck with me and given me some things to think about. We all have this image of what we should be right? While striving for improvement and those goals is great, we need to also embrace the things about us that we might see as weaknesses.

I have no doubt that we are who we are for a reason. There are things in this life, people to help that need that one unique thing about you. Who you are is who you are supposed to be!! All the challenges we experience only add to our uniqueness. There is no need to try to fit into the mold that we see as perfect. In doing that we lose the part of us that is needed in this world!

We live in a world where we are constantly being shamed for who we are. Seriously, I see it all the time. We don’t talk, act, dress, eat, study, or live like someone else and we are made to feel like there is something wrong with that. I think as parents we do it more than we realize to our kids. One child is the model of success and we offer praise and praise. The other child struggles and instead of helping them see the things that are their strengths we try to get them to fit into the mold of the other child. We have shamed them into feeling like being good at art isn’t as good as being a straight A student. They feel it, I promise you they do. And we feel it too, whether we acknowledge it or not. We feel like who we are isn’t who we should be. Now I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be striving for healthy change, but we also have to see that maybe some of those things about us that we are trying to change don’t need to be changed after all.

You are who you are for a reason!!

If I can get religious for a minute here, I believe that we have each been blessed with divinely inspired gifts and talents. Those gifts and talents are to bless the lives of those around us. What if we fight to hide our gifts and talents because they aren’t the gifts and talents that are popular? Perhaps your bubbly “over bearing” and seemingly “crazy” personality is just the thing that will help someone see their own gifts? We cannot push those beautiful unique things about us down. We have to let them shine!! If you aren’t standard PTA mom material, that is great!! They probably need your different perspective and ideas. Don’t let who you aren’t stop you from doing what you are good at!

We are who we are for a reason!!

Let’s learn how to embrace the uniqueness of who we are!! Let’s learn to accept that being ourselves is so much better than trying to be like someone else (or be the person we think we have to be)! You are you, and that is a beautiful thing!! Embrace your flaws and find a way to make them a positive! Live life authentically, remove those labels, and seek those gifts and talents that are just yours to use for the good of yourself and others! Believe that you are enough just the way you are!!

Jen “Hotmess Hottie”