Hotmess has opened my eyes to a lot of things. One of those things is the way we talk to ourselves. In Hotmess fat is a forbidden word. Along with all the other negative words we use to talk unkindly about our bodies.

Most of us would never dream of saying those things to people we love…so why is it ok for us to say those things to ourselves?

Where ever I am these days I find myself very aware of the way people talk about their bodies. Eliminating those negative words and phrases from my thoughts and words have only brought more awareness to their use by others. I cringe when I hear a mother at the store comment on how the pants make her look fat or how a shirt makes her look frumpy. I hate seeing a woman look in the mirror and frown because I know what she is thinking. Or even hearing someone mention that they just need to lose those last 5 pounds or obsessing over the calories she is currently eating because she obviously doesn’t need them (we all know we don’t need them, but don’t let the guilt get you).

We may think those things don’t cause harm, but they do. We see quotes all the time that tell us the way we talk to our children becomes their inner dialogue. So doesn’t it make sense that the way we talk to ourselves will either hurt us or help us?? Every time we look in the mirror and let the negativity take control it burrows deeper into our core. Before we know it we can’t look in the mirror and see one single positive thing about ourselves. That is a problem.

It is a problem because our bodies are amazing and beautiful. They are a blessing!! Our bodies can do so many things that we take for granted. We can’t let the negative thoughts take away from how blessed we truly are.

So how do we get that negativity out of our core? It starts with being nice to ourselves. It starts with a smile in the mirror instead of a grimace. It starts with being grateful for everything our bodies can do! It starts with catching that negative thought before it spirals and replacing it with at least two positives. It can be hard at first, but you have to keep trying!!

So please, be nice to yourself. Change your inner dialogue and accept that you and your body are pretty darn amazing!!